My Values
Proactive
Acting and speaking to build progress and prevent harm
Skilled
Decisive and moderated action, including the action of stillness
Encouraging
Foster development in others and self
Aware
Being safe and open in both the capabilities and limits of cognition and intuition
My adult years
Today I am physically
and psychologically well
It wasn’t always so.
Burning the candle at both ends,
Smiling through the pain
As a workaholic IT Architect I wasn’t prioritising my health.
I had professional purpose, belonging, responsibility and control,
but my well being was suffering.
Multi-tasking decision-fatigue – be it home, work, or the pub – was common and
I’d reach for binge food and drink to comfort the stress.
Think: pizzas, beer, chocolates, shots, fizzy drinks, packets of biscuits;
two or three whole dinner plates.
Over time I was getting heavier and bigger.
I was failing the societal and family expectations
expectations of ‘work hard and don’t be a sissy’.
And worse still:
“don’t care about your self, it’s SELFISH”.
My mind had hardened those thoughts into priorities;
it was working against me.
My dynamic was poorly balanced food, sleep, and thinking,
and my body was taking the brunt.
Will power and will NOT power
Getting around the football pitch was no joke any more.
Skin and gut problems also developed, and my sleep became erratic.
On the surface my work was ‘just fine’. I was performing, yes, but the joy had long since been strangled out of it. I was just grinding metal.
I mostly suffered in silence.
I also cushioned my ‘failings’ in gallows humour or self-deprecating jibes..
There were periods of eating rigidly well for weight loss but I would slingshot back.
Will power alone wasn’t cutting it.
Silver linings and clouds.
Yet another football injury forced me to seek gentle exercise,
what I found was yoga.
The stretching made my body feel great.
The benefits compelled me to qualify as a teacher.
I learned so much about the mind-body connection through allied meditation,
but the training itself added to the workaholism: a double-edged sword.
Cycles of bingeing intensified.
My partner encouraged me to get help.
She was worried about me but I wasn’t ready to hear that.
Spiralling Downwards
Deeper problems swirled.
The most severe were relationship issues and
I lost connection with people I held very dear.
Then, my father passed away.
He had suffered from diabetes, heart disease, had heart attacks and a triple bypass, and high blood pressure.
I looked in the mirror.
A bell tolled.
An evolution
Out of desperation, I swallowed my pride and contacted a ‘life’ coach.
The progress was tricky and slow at first,
but over time this has opened progress I couldn’t even have imagined.
My emotional state has been freed from the onslaught of
misaligned internal and external expectations.
Having integrated mind-balancing meditation more deeply,
I now sustain healthy habits, weight balance, and free thinking.
The Deepest Joys
My most valued benefits have been my improved relationships and keeping my good humour.
My physical health and sleep quality are also great.
The difference is night and day.
Helping
Compassion for the same struggle in others has driven me to help. I have retrained and now work to inspire deep change.
I have seen hundreds of people.
I coach natural health and well-being improvements.
FOOD re-balanced
MIND clear
BODY revitalised
